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anonymous2323

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Oct 11, 2021
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Hi guys. I’m 16 and I know that im transgender. Since i was very young I would paint my nails and dress up with my sister. When i grew up a bit and started meeting new ppl i started thinking that I was “weird” or “creepy” when in actual fact I just needed so badly to be a girl. I struggle with bad anxiety and depression and so it’s in my natural personality to try and cover up any of my ‘problems’. Until now I’ve been able to pretend like a guy but as you can imagine after 16 years of that, im am in the worst place I have ever been in. I know my family would be accepting of me, but for some reason i can’t bring myself to tell anyone. I’m also starting to feel suicidal as I’m scared that no matter what I do I will never look like a cis-women my age. For literally 16 years i haven’t talked to anyone, in real life or online, about this and I just need someone to help me.

i always thought one day I would just come out, but I could never do it. now i’m in the position where i’m mentally worse than ever with no one to talk to. Any reply helps, just need someone. 🤍
 
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Mark Laymon

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The Trevor Project may be a great place to start. They have an awesome hotline to just talk.
They are a really good place to start. Even just to say Hello!
 
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Atalanta

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Hi guys. I’m 16 and I know that im transgender. Since i was very young I would paint my nails and dress up with my sister. When i grew up a bit and started meeting new ppl i started thinking that I was “weird” or “creepy” when in actual fact I just needed so badly to be a girl. I struggle with bad anxiety and depression and so it’s in my natural personality to try and cover up any of my ‘problems’. Until now I’ve been able to pretend like a guy but as you can imagine after 16 years of that, im am in the worst place I have ever been in. I know my family would be accepting of me, but for some reason i can’t bring myself to tell anyone. I’m also starting to feel suicidal as I’m scared that no matter what I do I will never look like a cis-women my age. For literally 16 years i haven’t talked to anyone, in real life or online, about this and I just need someone to help me.

i always thought one day I would just come out, but I could never do it. now i’m in the position where i’m mentally worse than ever with no one to talk to. Any reply helps, just need someone. 🤍
Maybe we could talk? Ur situation kinda make me remember of myself. I don't have answers, but we could talk if u wanna and help each other
 

Axle2152

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Hi guys. I’m 16 and I know that im transgender. Since i was very young I would paint my nails and dress up with my sister. When i grew up a bit and started meeting new ppl i started thinking that I was “weird” or “creepy” when in actual fact I just needed so badly to be a girl. I struggle with bad anxiety and depression and so it’s in my natural personality to try and cover up any of my ‘problems’. Until now I’ve been able to pretend like a guy but as you can imagine after 16 years of that, im am in the worst place I have ever been in. I know my family would be accepting of me, but for some reason i can’t bring myself to tell anyone. I’m also starting to feel suicidal as I’m scared that no matter what I do I will never look like a cis-women my age. For literally 16 years i haven’t talked to anyone, in real life or online, about this and I just need someone to help me.

i always thought one day I would just come out, but I could never do it. now i’m in the position where i’m mentally worse than ever with no one to talk to. Any reply helps, just need someone. 🤍
First welcome to the community. One of the hardest things in life is accepting and loving yourself, keep in mind that being 16 you're probably still figuring out who you are...of course people in their 30's, 40's and beyond are often still doing that. Be gentle with yourself. Allow all the time you need. Understand that coming out is a process, you come out when you're ready to and I feel that it is important that you don't feel forced to do anything. Things like painting nails, dressing up, is neither weird or creepy, neither is being "effeminate." Understand that things will get better, understand that simply being a teenager is a crazy time in life in general and it will get better. I know way back when I was a teenager the things made me feel lost, worthless, didn't matter 5 years later.

Know that you are worth it and you do matter. While I am certainly no expert in anything and sitting here I wonder if I am saying the right things and whether it helps. I do think just talking to people whether it is here, or The Trevor Project, a friend can be very helpful. Just know that you have an entire community of people who have your back and support you, even though it might seem that the world outside is against you (it really isn't). Be weary of social media too, things like TikTok, Instagram have been shown to be harmful....that's just general advice.

“As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has- or ever will have- something inside that is unique to all time. It's our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression.” - Fred Rogers

Take care.
 

Gigi

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Hi guys. I’m 16 and I know that im transgender. Since i was very young I would paint my nails and dress up with my sister. When i grew up a bit and started meeting new ppl i started thinking that I was “weird” or “creepy” when in actual fact I just needed so badly to be a girl. I struggle with bad anxiety and depression and so it’s in my natural personality to try and cover up any of my ‘problems’. Until now I’ve been able to pretend like a guy but as you can imagine after 16 years of that, im am in the worst place I have ever been in. I know my family would be accepting of me, but for some reason i can’t bring myself to tell anyone. I’m also starting to feel suicidal as I’m scared that no matter what I do I will never look like a cis-women my age. For literally 16 years i haven’t talked to anyone, in real life or online, about this and I just need someone to help me.

i always thought one day I would just come out, but I could never do it. now i’m in the position where i’m mentally worse than ever with no one to talk to. Any reply helps, just need someone. 🤍
Hi 👋,

as you can see, we’re here for you. The important things are just said, e.g. looking for the Trevor project.

I’m sure, you’re a wonderful person with every right to be yourself as you feel to be.

I remember being your age I avoided every discussion about my situation, didn’t come to terms with myself, regretfully never came out, but became unhappy.

You feel inside the direction you want to go. If you look around, I’m sure you’re going to find allies which will accompany you on your way. Step by step....

Gigi
 
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