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Isbjorn

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I am a recently out to myself and some people bisexual. In the last year, I have come to terms with myself in my orientation. Nowadays this does not seem as nig a deal as it was when I was growing up, especially during my formative years. I am an older guy, born in the summer of '69... :cool: Some of my generation may get the reference.

I am a Navy veteran, I say this because a lot of my personality is in line with being a submariner. You know, sarcasm with little or no filtration. Doesn't mean I am an asshole.... well not a complete asshole. :p I do try not to be personally upsetting and truly care for my fellow human beings.

I am married. My wife does not know, but we have had some conversations and I am REALLY close to coming out to her. It is a tricky situation due to physical and mental issues with her. She has a pituitary tumor that was mostly removed, then irradiated, so it is no linger growing. That being said there is still a mass on her pituitary and that causes hormonal imbalances, which include a nearly 24/7 low grade headache that spikes to migraine if she is over stimulated, post menopausal hot flashes, lack of sex drive, emotional, cognitive, and memory issues. I only share this, so there is an understanding of why I have to be careful coming out to her, to prevent any more emotional stress, which equates to more emotional stress on me.

Anyway, I am here looking for a new place to share, support, and be supported. One of the places I frequented is gone now and I have been looking for some time for a new place that isn't a raunchy hookup place. Not saying anything against that. I know where to find that when and if I want, but I also need a place for support that is real. Hopefully this is the place.
 

Gigi

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Hi Isbjorn,

I guess, you have also been a member of the crashed lgbt forum. There was a thread for faithful husbands like you and me. I absolutely understand your situation because mine is similar. We’re that old that we’ve to decide if it’s really worth to leave a long years marriage for an adventure. It’s the sex on the one hand, but a lot of emotions on the other. Officially I’m not out to my spouse, but there are remarks from her side which show: she knows me better. Like you: it took me a long time to come to terms with myself with the consequence to come out to myself.

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Isbjorn

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Hi Isbjorn,

I guess, you have also been a member of the crashed lgbt forum. There was a thread for faithful husbands like you and me. I absolutely understand your situation because mine is similar. We’re that old that we’ve to decide if it’s really worth to leave a long years marriage for an adventure. It’s the sex on the one hand, but a lot of emotions on the other. Officially I’m not out to my spouse, but there are remarks from her side which show: she knows me better. Like you: it took me a long time to come to terms with myself with the consequence to come out to myself.

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That's the one. I was BiBear over there.... yes I'm a poet don'tcha know it! :D
 

Gigi

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I would like that too. I’m missing some contacts really. It’s been a failure to not exchange personal emails, but I trusted in Tapatalk.

Gigi 😥
 
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Mark Laymon

Mark Laymon
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Can you use archive.org to find lost contacts? Some may use the same screen name on other sites.
 
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Mark Laymon

Mark Laymon
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Can you use archive.org to find lost contacts? Some may use the same screen name on other sites.
 


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