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Becca_22

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Hi there!
I am looking for and advise for coming out to my Family. I already came out to my friends and it was not hard at all. I also actually am ready, but everytime i want to tell them, i get scared. I am pretty Sure, that they will be positive about it. Do you have and advise?
 
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Gigi

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Hi there!
I am looking for and advise for coming out to my Family. I already came out to my friends and it was not hard at all. I also actually am ready, but everytime i want to tell them, i get scared. I am pretty Sure, that they will be positive about it. Do you have and advise?

Hi Becca,

you’re sure about your orientation, that’s a good precondition. You came out to friends, so you’re self-confident and courageous. The basics to come out to your parents are given.

But it’s difficult to present an advice for the right moment to come out to your parents.

It’s an emotional and a material thing. Eg if you’re dependent on your parents, might be you’re young and they keep your maintenance, sometimes it would be better to wait till you’re independent.

In general parents love their children unconditionally, they understand, they forgive, they sustain. And often they know better about our sexual orientation like we ourselves, but live the rule „don’t ask don’t tell“, waiting for the child doing the first step. In your case you know best if one of your parents is more or less homophobe. If not, lucky you, it would really „only“ be waiting for an occasion.

In that case I would like other members of this forum to continue at this point, because personally I never came out to my parents, so I don’t have any personal experience.

In case you expect an emotional disaster it would be better you come out, when you’re in an independent position.

There’s no silver bullet.

Gigi
 

TheGrayArea

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If you think your family will be supportive, I say just go for it!
There's nothing worse than having to hide who you are or pretend you're someone you're not around someone you see every day.
A good way to do it might be to sit your family down. Make a big deal out of it so they don't feel like they can gloss over it.
 
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Becca_22

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If you think your family will be supportive, I say just go for it!
There's nothing worse than having to hide who you are or pretend you're someone you're not around someone you see every day.
A good way to do it might be to sit your family down. Make a big deal out of it so they don't feel like they can gloss over it.
Thank you so much! I am gonna try
 
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Becca_22

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Jan 10, 2022
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Hi Becca,

you’re sure about your orientation, that’s a good precondition. You came out to friends, so you’re self-confident and courageous. The basics to come out to your parents are given.

But it’s difficult to present an advice for the right moment to come out to your parents.

It’s an emotional and a material thing. Eg if you’re dependent on your parents, might be you’re young and they keep your maintenance, sometimes it would be better to wait till you’re independent.

In general parents love their children unconditionally, they understand, they forgive, they sustain. And often they know better about our sexual orientation like we ourselves, but live the rule „don’t ask don’t tell“, waiting for the child doing the first step. In your case you know best if one of your parents is more or less homophobe. If not, lucky you, it would really „only“ be waiting for an occasion.

In that case I would like other members of this forum to continue at this point, because personally I never came out to my parents, so I don’t have any personal experience.

In case you expect an emotional disaster it would be better you come out, when you’re in an independent position.

There’s no silver bullet.

Gigi
Thank you!
 
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